Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person's life.
It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living "out of the habit" of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years.
Eventually, you begin to think about dating, but it is suggested that you take your time.
Use this precious opportunity to rediscover yourself. Think of this time in your life as an adventure to explore the real you.
If you have worked outside the home combined with being a mom and wife for the last ten, fifteen or twenty years, you may have lost yourself along the way.
Certainly not on purpose, but as most women try to do it all as "super" moms, many times we put our own wants and needs on hold to keep our families and jobs running smoothly!
Take a deep breath and let's start to rediscover our true passions and say... Will the Real Me Please Stand Up!
1) Treasure Your Gifts Within
Realizing we are all born as "gold nuggets" is a hard concept for many women to believe about themselves. Think about how magnificent you really are!
Over time, you might have forgotten your unique gifts and are only thinking of what you don't like about yourself or your life.
Set a new intention, starting today, to list all of your great qualities and read that list everyday. Keep reading it until you believe it.
Examples: beautiful smile, kindness, generosity, loving, caring, intelligent. keep going.
Your list is endless, when you start focusing on your great qualities. Allow yourself to see the shining gold within. It's already there!
2) Give Yourself A Break
During and after a divorce it is common to have the feeling of grieving, similar to that of the loss of someone.
Many women feel the need to stay busy to keep their minds off of this stressful time, such as working overtime or cleaning the house from top to bottom, but let this time also include pampering yourself.
For example, barter with a friend or neighbor to watch your children or leave work early to give yourself this needed time. Yes, you do deserve to do something special for yourself.
It can be as simple as taking a bath or a walk, going to the mall or reading a book with your favorite cup of tea. Give yourself permission - it's O.K.
Remember, the happier you are, the happier your family will be!
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