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The Art of Seduction


Did I really need to mention that?

Flirting is used in two ways. We flirt with others to remind our partner that we still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction, it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected.

Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on women's signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something'.

Playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless you're sending out enough signals to assure him that it really is just a game and that you are indeed 'gettable'.

Let him know that the chase will most likely be worth it in the end.

Once you've made contact with him, you'll need to let him know where the encounter is likely to be heading.

People have very different ideas of what sex should be so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things.

This doesn't mean that you should just blurt out "I'm a dominatrix, how d'ya fancy being whipped?" or anything else quite as obvious.
You can if you really must, and you never know, it might just work, but in general the subtle approach is more likely to get you what you want.

Men generally take the lead in this area, asking questions and trying to access whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner.
Follow his lead. The questions probably won't be direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based around 'self-disclosure'.

He tells you some, you tell him some.

People typically discuss sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when accessing a potential partner, testing each other in a non-committal way.

Now that you're speaking you'll need to sustain his interest.

Two people who've found each other through physical attraction may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction once mouths have been opened.

Look for signs of acceptance or rejection.

If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how much you fancy him. There are plenty more available males about just waiting to be seduced.

If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's time to move onto the final yielding. One of you must surrender.

In all probability it will be you, because even if you initialized the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of pursuer somewhere along the line.

The roles of 'hunter' and 'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution, and usually fall naturally into place.

Surrender and enjoy!

About the Author:
 Sharon Jacobsen is a London born freelance writer living in South Cheshire, England with her partner, also a writer, and however many of her three children happen to be at home at any given time. To contact Sharon or to learn more about her work, please visit www.sharon-jacobsen.co.uk.


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