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10 Clues of an Online Affair

by Bill Mitchell

thing off and don’t get caught.” This foolish act is also called a “computer crash” and has the potential of damaging both hardware and software.

The loss of files occurs when a computer is cut off abruptly.

Many spouses have reported this behavior just prior to hiring us.

We consider it a significant indicator of a deviant behavior.

Now, bear in mind your spouse may be viewing pornography and fear reprisal.

This may explain the need for panic.

5.The computer and monitor are always positioned away from your sight.

The study of body language has become useful to many investigators, especially those of us who administer lie detection examinations. 

An obvious sign of deception and a common mistake the cheater make is blocking your view.

They need the time to clear a screen, turn off the monitor, or change to another internet page when threatened with exposure.

Intentionally turning the monitor or laptop away from view is an indicator they don’t want you to see something.

Over time this act develops into a habit and confers greater freedom from detection.

In most instances, having the lead time to hide the truth from you is all they need.

6.Clears all internet history after chat sessions, usage or installs software to automatically rid this information.

There are times when a computer becomes filled with unwanted files.

Computers run faster when less “temporary” files use up valuable “ram memory.” This is prudent maintenance for any computer user.

What I am referring to in this sign is the repeated habit of purposefully clearing information from discovery.

While this information is retrievable through the science of Computer Forensics, you won’t find it readily available.

On the market now is software that actually helps the cheater.

The actual purpose of this new software tool is to hide any trace of computer internet usage.

Do you find this a little suspicious?

I do.

7. Exhibits a compulsive need to be online and seems defensive when confronted to stop.

“When are you coming to bed?”

“We really need to go, now, what’s taking so long?”

“Can’t you do that later?”

Have you asked these types of questions?

Teenagers often become “obsessed” with instant messaging.

If you have kids who use the computer, you know.

They have trouble walking away from the PC. This same desire or need displayed by your spouse is cause for alarm.

A compulsive, defensive pattern of behavior shows a strong need to continue. You need to know why.

8.Shares personal information, photos or events with strangers in emails, chatrooms or while instant messaging.

Setting up a profile for instant messaging is commonplace.

Kids love to fill them up and share with friends on the buddy list.

I’ve witnessed spouses who send nude pictures of themselves over the internet.

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