You've been together several months, but something doesn't feel quite right with your partner. You start wondering if he or she might be having an affair.
Is it jealousy, your imagination or just apathy that is the result of long-term complacency with each other?
It can be hard to tell sometimes, but when in doubt go with your gut and look for the following behaviors that might mean your mate is having an affair.
Oddly, your partner might be having an affair if he or she is acting MORE attentive than usual to you.
If you are suddenly showered with gifts and compliments in what almost seems like an inappropriate manner, then he or she might be trying to make up for guilty feelings.
Look for a sudden change in your partner's routine.
Is he or she staying out a lot longer than usual, not showing up for dinner or unaccountable at times for his or her whereabouts?
If your partner suddenly alters his or her daily habits that too can be a sign of cheating.
If your partner is frequently picking fights with you, that might also mean big trouble. The emotional logic behind this is that picking a fight gives him or her to an excuse to fly out of the house and possibly into the arms of the third party.
That way the cheating partner can deny guilty feelings and blame you instead. If you are not to blame, a cheater will create a reason to justify what he or she is doing to you.
Your mate might also become overly critical of you. This is part of an agenda that once again, gives them an excuse to leave or justify the affair.
The guilty partner might also be overly sensitive to criticism from you as there may be a ring of truth that triggers guilty feelings that they would rather not face.
If every time you have fight your partner threatens you with ending the relationship, you might also have a cheater on your hands. Your lover feels safe with these ultimatums because they have another person as "back-up" should the two of you decide to split up.
Another sign of cheating is a consistent negative attitude towards the relationship and comments that make you feel as if you have an expiry date inked on your forehead.
This might include saying such things as "I would like to travel next year." (with no mention of a "we") or "You know I will always love you, even if this ever ended."
If your lover becomes withdrawn and depressed, it could be that he or she is brooding about what they have done and can't handle the guilt.