I’m sure a positive response is all the other person is looking for, especially if they know that you’re not familiar with the topic.
4. Lack of affection.
The type of affection mentioned here isn’t necessarily pertaining to physical affection. If you’re not really the “touchy-feely” type, compliments work just as well!
If you haven’t given one in a while, now is a great time to start. Take notice of a physical feature your spouse really likes about him or her self.
Tell him or her how something they wear or a certain color really accentuates that feature. I’m sure he or she will be so happy you noticed that you’ll at least get a hug or a smile out of the deal. I wouldn’t advise complimenting on a feature that your spouse is self-conscious of because chances are, he or she will think you’re just saying it to say it and that you really don’t mean it.
You can also compliment your loved one on how smart he or she is. This will be especially easy if they’re knowledgeable in a certain area.
Obviously they like that topic or they wouldn’t study it so much. Tell him or her that you’re impressed or amazed by the amount of information they know. It will not only boost the confidence of your spouse, but yourself and your marriage!
5. Lack of connection.
Lately, with all the stress on individuality around us, we don’t take the time to bond with our peers. This is especially true for a career oriented married couple. Both husband and wife work separately all day and when they come home, they’re still in that individual mind-set.
Your spouse is there to comfort and support you so depend on him or her a little. It will show that you’re capable of taking care of yourself all day but still like his or her company to rely on after a rough day alone.
Help each other out by sharing duties or trading duties that night. Yes, everyone gets tired but if you notice you have a little bit more energy than your spouse, pick up the slack for him or her that night.
They will appreciate the deed and will or should return it another night when you are not feeling up to your end of the chores.
Remember marriage is about two people joining lives. You may be separated all day but when you’re together, you represent a two-person union that depends on itself to run smoothly.
It is the belief of this author that applying these suggestions on a daily basis will indeed help a troubled couple regain the closeness and magic their relationship once had.
The results won't happen overnight but neither did the problems. Patience and understanding are key factors here but the benefits will far exceed the effort.