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Building the Bond in a Love Relationship
by Alina Ruigrok

A bond (relationship wise) is when two people have a connection.

Being attracted to each other & sharing common values & interests brought the two of you together as a couple, but the bond has not been set completely.

Besides the fact that you have love & care between you, you also need to see whether or not the two of you are friends.

Is it possible to be friends?


As a matter of fact, it is a must if the two of you are going to build a lasting bond.

Having a strong longing & passion for another is important, but is not enough fuel to keep the bond running.

With friendship, your relationship will remain having that strength under all kinds of circumstances.

There will be times, for example, when you as a couple are not living in your most passionate times. This is natural & does not mean there is no longer love or desire.

As your relationship deepens, you will go through many experiences & stages that may put your romance & frequent hot sex aside for a while.

This is where friendship comes in & why it is so important. You should be there for each other & understand your partner’s situations & concerns.

Just take a look at your friends. See what makes your friendship with them so great.

You then need to see if your partner has those same similarities or exact (sticking up for you when you need the back up for instance) qualities.

Another point to keep in mind is keeping yourself aware of what behavior you would not except from a friend.

You should definitely not accept those behaviors from your mate (like standing you up all the time) either.

It is not easy to put our friends & lovers in the same comparison because we are in love with our partners, & therefore will be more patient with them than we would with our friends.

You can easily blind yourself due to the love you feel for that person & not even realize when he or she is not being a good friend & partner to you.

How can you tell?

A true friendship is basically the same as the true qualities that define real love.

The difference is, we are in love & have a deep desire for our mates, with commitment & a goal of building a future, and perhaps even getting married & making a family together.

The list below will help you see if your lover is a friend to you as well.

1.You can talk to & confide in each other about anything.
2.Your partner is there for you when you need to talk to someone.
3.Being able to always rely on each other when one is counted on.
4.Having a permanent shoulder to cry on when we need it
5.Having many things in common
6.Accepting one another for who we are
7.Listening to us & considering our opinions important

Do not feel guilty for having higher expectations from your lover either.

People often feel like they should be more lenient & understanding when it comes to their lovers.

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