Conquering your Jealousy
It may only be a simple word, but does not have such a simple definition behind it. There are many reasons we feel jealous & though it is a normal human emotion to feel, it tends to get out of control if we fail to tame it.
In order to tame it & control it however, you will first have to learn where your jealousy is coming from. There is always a cause for jealousy to arise & once you have those causes figured out, controlling it will become easier.
When your jealous emotions come out, all you know is that you are feeling that way, correct? That is where you need to stop!
It will be hard to remember, but you must take a pause every time you feel jealous & ask yourself why you feel that way. Does it have something to do with your own self-esteem, or does the person you are in a relationship with provide you with good reasons to feel this way?
Speaking of self-esteem, jealousy is a good way of lowering it. So no matter what the reasons may be, it is extremely important for you to conquer it, otherwise it can do great damage to your self-esteem.
Once you figure out where your jealousy is coming from, you will then need to discover why it makes you feel jealous.
For instance, if you figured out that it makes you jealous when your boyfriend or girlfriend talks to the opposite sex, then you need to discover why it makes you jealous.
Did you have an experience in a previous relationship that now causes you to feel jealous with similar situations, or do you just have a fear of being betrayed?
If so, why does that fear exist? Is your self-esteem a little lower than you thought? As you can see, there is a huge line of questions that need to be asked & answered in order for your jealousy to be conquered & under control.
Acknowledging it is the first & important step, so you are already on the right & smart track!
Once you have realized where your jealousy comes from & what causes it, you can then concentrate on keeping it in control & hopefully get rid of it. If the reason has something to do with your partner, then it is best to have a serious conversation with him or her about it.
Do not be afraid or feel stupid for feeling the way you feel. You have the right to express yourself & they are entitled to knowing what is making you feel jealous. If they truly care about you, they will work on ways to prevent you from experiencing such emotions.
It is also a good idea to make an appointment with yourself & find ways you can improve your self-love & health, so that you can gain more strength & confidence, & be ready fight off such jealousies when they come to surface.