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Polar Power: Do Opposites Attract?
by Luigi Di Serio

Am I saying females can not or do not have any of these traits?

I certainly am not!

Males and females can share all sorts of characteristics that can be deemed either male or female. But this is not about males and females, but more about masculine and feminine energies, and their differences.  

As we all know, there are masculine females, and feminine men.

There is nothing wrong with this, but people with masculine qualities will attract people with feminine qualities and vice-versa.

I surmise that a perfect balance can really only be achieved with a most-manly man, in touch with is feminine side, and a feminine lady, in touch with her masculine size, as reflected in a YIN-YANG symbol.

Both energies are required to fulfill the symbol of perfect harmony.

Each piece is uniquelymade to compliment the other, creating a mutually beneficialbalance, that can not be achieved without each polar oppositepower forging together to create a new, unique and even morepowerful and beautiful energy.

So the mystery has been solved, opposites really do attract?

Actually… Not really.

In part II we will explore why “the opposite’s attract” notion is a double-edged sword in the world of dating and gender interaction.

It is pretty common knowledge that opposites attract. We know that magnets with opposite polarity attract, so the common cliché is actually a law of nature.

However, rather than boring you with scientific evidence to prove this is true, let me cut right to the chase:

In part one of this article, I argued that opposites do attract, and both the feminine energy and the masculine energy are required for attraction to occur (which is mostly an inexplicable chemistry) and for a fulfilling relationship to ensue.

But don’t birds of a feather flock together?

And don’t peoplewho “have so much in common” usually have successful relationships?

Sure they do. But this contradicts what I’ve beensaying all along.

Is it similarities or differences that are the key to a perfectly balanced union? Therein lies the important question, which actually has a much more simple answer than one might think.

According to a University of Iowa study on mating issues (mating based on similar or opposite characteristics), which studied 291 newlyweds that had participated in the Iowa Marital Assessment Project, researchers found with very strong evidence that people tend to marry those who are similar in attitudes, religion and values.

They also found that these were the main reasons why people got married. However, it is similarity in personality that appears to be more important in having a happy marriage.

The findings appear in the February 2005 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, published by the American Psychological Association (APA).

The couples were assessed on a broad range of personality characteristics, attitudes and relationship quality indicators.

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