The Freedom to Fall
If you cannot show integrity towards the one you are ending with, then how are you supposed to be honest with the new one?
If you are not strong enough to be single and walk alone until the right one comes along, then you do not deserve your soul mate's presence. Soul mates are not magical healers and fixers of life.
They are your twin soul. They are you in a second body. If you are not strong enough to wait for that one, then you cannot have that one.
"Okay," you say, "then just give me a really nice person that I can happily spend the rest of my life with. You are right, I'm not all that strong and I'm not really able to be alone for any length of time. So, just give me a very nice person that's not quite a soul mate."
Relationships created in desperation, need, and greed very rarely work out. What you've just told the world is that you're desperate and anyone will do.
And that's what you'll get, anyone - not the one. You must be romantically unattached when you begin your search for love. It's karma, it's trust, it's morals, it's only fair.
And what of your overall worthiness - are you worthy?
This is not a beat yourself up question. Imagine that special person is alive and real flesh and blood person out in the world searching this very moment for 'happily ever after' just like you are.
Are you the kind of person that you would spend time searching for?
If the person meant for you was indeed your perfect match, what would they look like? How would they behave?
How would they feel and respond? Look into the mirror my friend - are you what you are looking for?
Until the person you see in the mirror is worthy of your love and attention, then you will not recognize your twin soul.
For they share your essence. Become the type of person that you would want to find and in so doing so you will become the kind of person that your rightful partner wishes to find. Now you will be able to recognize each other and accept each other.
Trust me, there is nothing worse than finding your soul mate when you are both screwed up and dysfunctional - intense and ugly, rather than intense and beautiful.
If you want to call a magical cosmic kind of love into your life, then you must look at what your life is now. Is it inviting and warm?
Would it nurture or challenge true love's growth? Are you ready, really ready?
Is the space in your heart, in your life, in your bed where only one's most treasured beloved belongs cleared out and available for them to lay their weary head once they do find you?
My father used to tell me that he had pockets sewn all over his heart and each of us had a special pocket in which nobody else could fill. Is the 'happily ever after' pocket of your heart big enough and ready? Is there space for real love in your life?
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