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How Well Do You Know Your Partner?
by Dave Turo-Shields

For my birthday last year my wife made up a beautifully framed picture of my name, and then underneath it she listed 32 positive qualities I possess. 

Needless to say, it was one of the finest gifts I have ever received. Some of the qualities even taught me about me.

After that wonderful gift, my wife, son and daughter (kids are 6 and 4 years old) put together a similar "Greatest Daddy" list for Father's Day last year that warms my heart to this day. It lists both behaviors and personal traits of me as a father.

Today's topic is around this very thing… how well do you know your partner and how well are you known by your partner?

Usually there's a passionate fire early in the relationship, which brings a desire to know everything about your new partner that there is to know. This is wonderful and a great way in which to become acquainted with one another.

All good beginnings usually have many question and answer sessions. As you come to know each other at deeper and deeper levels, you become close friends.

There's a dangerous myth (maybe more than one!) floating around about couples. It's once you knowall there is about him or her, that's all there is to know. The truth is that you grow, adapt and change all the time. We all do.

Unfortunately, unless you and your partner take time to know one another as you grow over time, you lose touch with who your partner is.

This leads to a sense of disconnection, and the distance which follows, can cost you your friendship. A couple's friendship is vital to the long-term survival and quality of the relationship.

Today is a primer for becoming re-acquainted with each other. It's not for scuffing, only for fun.

Take time to answer each of the questions below and set a date… yeah, that's right - A DATE, and plan to share your answers with each other over a nice evening out somewhere.

1. If my partner suddenly inherited a decent fortune what would they want to do?

 2. What does my partner value most in life?

 3. What are my partner's religious beliefs?

 4. What does my partner worry about the most?

5. What are my partner's 3 most favorite movies and rock groups?

 6. Can my partner list the relatives I like the least?

 7. Does my partner know who my best friends are?

 8. Could your partner tell you in detail what his/her first reaction was to you when you met?

 9. Can your partner tell you what you stress over the most?

 10. Is your partner your best friend?


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