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The Insecurity Blanket: Pillow-Talk Your Worries Away
by Luigi Di Serio

Are you looking for an effective way to improve your intimate relationships?

The insecurity blanket is a semi-revolutionary yet simple tool , which can do just that.

But first, it’s important to establish the most common causes of bad relationships, break-ups, and unsuccessful dating.

1. “I never date” + “I’m worthless” + “I’m broke”

Men that have low self-esteem & lack monetary stability in their lives are generally terrible at courting the opposite sex, and as a result rarely date.

When they do, their relationships don’t progress positively: Jealousy, fear (of commitment) & uncertainty make the relationship sour faster than the sun's effect on un-refrigerated milk.

2. “What he doesn’t know can’t hurt him”

In marriages & long-term relationships, financial troubles, pride & dishonesty are the proverbial nails in the coffin of courtship. Hiding your $400 pair of designer boots may seem harmless at first, but an accumulated VISA debt can & will lead your husband to wonder what other things you are hiding from him.

3. “I’ll bet something’s going on between my girlfriend & that guy that she works with…”

Assuming that your girlfriend is being unfaithful is the least effective way of figuring out whether or not she actually is. Entrapment may be more effective, but is illegal in most countries.

The point is, feeling & acting jealous will only brew resentment towards her, and eventually lead to fighting & resentment on both sides.

So what do these unattractive characteristics have in common? What is the common denominator shared by these courtship-killing culprits?

In one word: INSECURITY.

Lack of self-confidence (“I can’t discuss politics with these people because I’m not smart enough”), low self-esteem (“I don’t deserve this girl - she’s way too pretty for me”), financial instability (“I can’t afford this jacket, but I’ll buy it anyway”) and uncertainty about the future all stem from one’s insecurities.

If you’ve taken an introductory psychology course, you’ve probably heard of world-renowned psychologist Abraham Maslow (1908-1970) and his Hierarchy of Needs. In it he ranks the needs of a human being, from lowest to highest:

(1) Physiological Needs (air, food, water)

(2) Safety (for children, their parents give them a feeling of safety)

(3) Love & Belonging (this is why we give affection, because
we innately seek affection in return)

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