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Is This Love? How Can You Know?
by Avalon De Witt

Ahhh... love! It's what we all seek. Is this love?

Even those who already have it are continually seeking ways to keep it.

But what is love, really?

How can we know that what we're feeling is not infatuation?

What's the difference?

If you are currently in a relationship or if you hope to be in one, this is a very important question.

Distinguishing this difference can be very challenging since we can't see love, we can't weigh or measure it to see how great or small it is.

And if you are highly psychic, making the distinction can be even more challenging because you may naturally feel as though you "know" the person.

But if we want to have happy, healthy relationships, we need to identify our feelings accurately.

Infatuation is like a drug, or a form of madness.

You are taken over by a whirlwind, you are consumed by thoughts of the other person and nothing else matters.

Your life suddenly revolves around this person and you want to spend every waking moment with him or her. You are in a dream, dizzy with bliss.

True love, on the other hand, is more a sense of friendship and respect.

The surest way to distinguish love from infatuation is to give your relationship the test of time.

But while you are waiting for time to tell, there are things you can watch for. Here are 10 questions that can help you evaluate your feelings:

1. Can you be open and honest with your partner without fear of rejection? Are you able to be yourself?

Or do you hide your weaknesses and try only to show your strengths?

When you truly love another, you don't concern yourself with impressing your beloved.

Rather, you are more interested in serving your lover and you know that is easier to do when you are honest.

2. Can you accept the ways in which your partner is different from you?

Infatuation is self-centered, thinking primarily of how the other person makes you feel.

With infatuation, you see the other person through "rose-colored glasses."

But real love is rooted in reality and acknowledges the imperfections of another without judgment. It has a deep respect for the other's individuality.

When you truly love another, you want to know what makes that person tick, why they do what they do, why they think what they think.

With love, faults and weaknesses of the other person are recognized and accepted.

3. Are you able and willing to discuss your differences with your partner?

If you are your own person with your own thoughts, you will experience differences.

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