then it is easy to see why our closest relationships are the most challenging.
If one of the partners doesn't want the lesson presented, it makes for a tedious path. If both resist, it is an exercise in futility and a choice to walk through life in chaos and conflict.
Though it is hard to believe anyone would make that choice, the reality is that many of us find it easier to argue and defend our position than to get to the bottom of what is really bothering us.
In our most intimate relationships, many of us are finding that we can no longer insinuate, imply or suggest what we mean.
At a certain point, telepathic communication between two people becomes so strong that any dishonesty or hedging will only add fuel to the fire of the ego and make trust harder to accomplish.
If you doubt this, think how many times you complete each other's sentence or know when something is bothering the other person, even though they may have said nothing directly.
For healthy relationships, direct and honest communications ultimately become imperative, and no where are they more important than in our most intimate, close relationships. We must begin to say what we mean, and mean what we say.
Of course, the other side of communication involves listening. For many of us, the mental activities are so active that we have to re-learn how to hear what someone is saying to us. Listening is a fine art, almost a lost art.
To complete the circle of clear communication, we must be willing to hear what our partner is saying, apart from any immediate response we might wish to insert.
Learning to let someone completely "have their say" without interruption is a challenge in this fast-paced, action-oriented society, but it is crucial to good relationships.
It has been my experience that, as long as I am mentally defending my position, I hear very little of what the other person is trying to say.About the Author: