Long-term relationships fail for many reasons, but one of the most common is incompatibility in important areas of your life.
It's all too easy to overlook major differences in the first bloom of love, but will the traits and beliefs that seem endearing in the first months of a new relationship still be acceptable in five, ten, or forty years?
The sad thing is that a painful breakup could have been avoided, simply by having an honest discussion of important issues before the relationship got too deep.
If you take a hard look at the ways you differ from your new flame, you can spare yourself a broken heart and a lot of time down the road.
Here are five questions that you should ask yourself before your relationship gets too serious.
1. Are Our Politics Compatible?
Politics is an issue which is often ignored in the early stages of a relationship.
Who wants to think about global warming when you could be planning a romantic getaway?
However, people tend to be passionate about their political beliefs, and differing views can cause Imagine having a bad fight with your lover.
Imagine of him/her calling you different names and arguing furiously with you.
Are you still in love?
Will you go back next day to them?
Or you already hate them?
Take this test.
After many years, your beloved is losing physical charm. Pick up photographs of some movie stars when they were young and compare with the way they look now.
Do something similar with your lover.
Are you still in love? Will you love them after so many years when they would have lost most of their physical charm?
Love is a feeling that lasts despite years. Love can take fights in its stride.
Love cannot be easily defined, but in love you care for your beloved more than yourself.
You become very selfless with your true sweetheart.
Do you have that feeling?
If yes, it is love.
Otherwise you need to think more.
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