by CD Mohatta
You are getting attracted.
You think about him/her.
You want to be with your object of love.
You are showing all the signs of being in love.
But is it love?
Or is it infatuation that will go away after some time?
Let us examine this in little more detail.
What is the difference between love and infatuation?
The first difference is that infatuation is short lived.
It disappears soon.
How will you test it?
Think about all the qualities that are making you fall in this love.
Now think of another person.
Imagine that the new candidate has all the qualities in greater measure.
Think deeply & imagine as much as you can.
Are you still in love, or you are shifting your allegiance to the new candidate?
Take another scenario.
Relationships to explode.
Falling in love with people who share your political tendencies will make a smoother road to travel in the future.
Opposing religious views might work out for two adults who respect one another, even if you do have difficulty reconciling your agnostic views with his dedication to spending Sunday mornings in church.
However, they can become a strain in a long term relationship, especially if you plan to have children.
Some couples frequently flare up at each other, shouting & yelling over every little problem - only to be doting on each other five minutes later.
Others would be badly hurt, preferring to discuss disagreements calmly & peaceably.
Difficulties often arise when communication patterns within the relationship vary widely.
When you first fall in love, all you can think about is the next time that you can see your new flame again.
However, this is the best time to consider the future as well.
If you've always dreamed of children & she doesn't want them, or you envision spending your life in the country while he wants the glamour of city life, it will be difficult to combine your differing views into a comfortable life together.
Everybody has different ideas about how people who are in love should act.
Perhaps you show your affection through your actions instead of your words, or you want your independence while your lover wants to spend all your spare time together.
The more compatible these opinions, the easier your life together will be.
With love, honest communication, and respect, any of these differences may be overcome.
However, knowing the areas in which you & your new love are not a perfect fit will allow you to address these issues early on.
If you are not able to come to an agreement, you will know that the relationship will not work before it is too late.
About the author:
Sandra Grauschopf is a happily married full-time author. She firmly believes in using her head to find true love. A good start is DemocraticMatch.com, the internet's top meeting place for democratic, liberal, and progressive singles.