Sex in Cyberspace
I am rubbing my keyboard are you rubbing your mouse. Cybersex is it cheating on your partner?
This is a controversial issue, one that has started a good number of debates across the internet.
I would have to say of course it's considered cheating; you are sharing intimate wants, needs and sexual fantasies with another person; when you should only be sharing those needs with your partner.
Cybersex is described as a mediated communication that virtual ourselves with the intention of becoming turned on; intellectually, emotionally and physically. The bonds of marriage are already under so much stress with our world today, cybersex robs a couple of intimacy and time together.
When the best part of your free time is spent with someone outside of your spouse, when you would rather be with that person than your spouse, when that person is the person with whom you share your feelings, your concerns, your needs and wants, you are cheating, whether or not you have ever been in a cyber relationship or a totally physically intimate relationship. It is a physical act. Making love is as much in the mind and is it is the body and cheating is an act of the mind just as must as it is our body.
Cheating is exactly that cheating. It is cheating the person, to whom you have made a commitment, of loyalty trust love, be it of your mind or your body. So whether it is on a keyboard, on a monitor, in a conversation or in a bed, or on the phone breaking the commitment is breaking the commitment.
Cheating is cheating. It destroys the bond of trust once that trust is lost it the hardest thing to ever get back. Most people just do whatever makes them happy and have no commitment to the vows they once made. They feel that they won't get caught and it no different than that of a movie but your being intimate with someone over the computer your exchanging words to turn another individual on.
I have to say wake up people both people behind those keyboards are real human being. There is no train monkey typing here. There is more ways than just one to have sex, than body to body contact. Cybersex is coming from images of the mind. You are expressing words that are arousing another. You can rationalize it all you want, "This is just cybersex, it's not real" or "I'm not emotionally attached to this person".
But if you feel guilty about it, your conscience is telling you that you're doing something wrong, something that may hurt the person you're with, offline then you are cheating. Isn't cybersex just as damaging as picking someone up at a bar and going home with them?
It's entirely too easy for us to pretend that the person on the other side of the chat isn't a real, living, person. Your cyber lover’s heart can be broken just as easily as your "real life" lover's heart can be.
There's a lot of focus on on-line sex and I think it's really getting