Make Time for Your Relationship
constitutes ""urgent"" will also change. Here are a few important, but not urgent, activities to put high on your priority list:
1. Have a regular daily chat.
Turn off the TV and the cell phone and sit together for a short time, uninterrupted and face-to-face, every day to share your thoughts and feelings. Tell each other the little details as well as the big news. Focusing on each other for as little as fifteen minutes can make a huge difference. You will both feel appreciated and heard.
2. Spend one evening together each week.
Plan a specific night each week for your special date. Get a babysitter or trade childcare time with a friend. Once scheduled, treat the commitment as if it were written in stone. Don't break the date!
Take turns planning the activity (and occasionally surprise each other).
Take in a movie, go for a bike ride, have a bubble bath, dancein your kitchen.
Whether it's a dress-up home-cooked meal or a picnic dinner on the living room floor, make it special.
It doesn't have to be expensive, just generous.
3. Spend some "day" time together.
Get up earlier than normal and have breakfast together at a coffee shop. Commute together if at all possible. Meet at lunchtime for a quiet meal or a "stolen moment".
Rendezvous after work for a drink and an appetizer before dinner. Meet at a park for a walk in the fresh air.
You'll be surprised how lively conversation can become when you're meeting in the middle of the day, away from the household chores.
The anticipation of a planned evening or activity can be fun and exciting, even if (especially if!) you've been together for a long time.
By making a date, you'll set aside the special time your relationship deserves and rediscover the romance that started it all."
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