4. Consider the immediate and long-term implications of each option (staying or leaving), including the impact of each on other people in your life.
5. Consider the worst- and best-case scenarios, as well as the possibilities in between.
6. Give your relationship every chance to get back on track before you call it quits.
Ask yourself if you have really tried everything.
If you have, and it still isn’t working, it may be time to move on.
Seeking Advice and Support
Involving a few trusted friends in your decision-making process can help you avoid the tendency to rush into a decision and hurry to get it over with.
Consulting others helps you step back from the situation and see it in a broader context.
While it is more difficult and time-consuming, getting the advice and support of others can help you reach a better decision about whether to end the relationship.
This is true for relationships or any other kind of decision. You may decide to work with a professional counselor or therapist during this process.
This is strongly advised if you are in an abusive relationship.
A licensed, experienced professional can help you sort out the issues, help you see things you may not be aware of, and give you feedback on how you are seeing things.
Involving an objective outsider can be a smart move because you can feel free to say everything that is on your mind without worrying about offending someone you care about or being judged for your thoughts and feelings.
Finally, if you decide that the relationship should end, minimize the chances for emotional fallout by planning how, where, and when you will deliver the news.
When making such an important change in your life, it is better to set aside spontaneity in favor of being slow, deliberate, and certain.
About the Author:
Garrett Coan is a professional therapist,coach and psychotherapist. His two Northern New Jersey office locations are accessible to individuals who reside in Bergen County, Essex County, Passaic County, Rockland County, and Manhattan. He offers online and telephone coaching and counseling services for those who live at a distance. He can be accessed through http://www.creativecounselors.com or 201-303-4303