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Advice on 6 things single christian dating online should know (Part One)
by Jason Whitney

Just quickly retreat from the situation and thank the Lord for His guidance.

Tip #3: A Picture Says a Thousand Words

Looks may not be everything, but in the online dating game, a picture can save you a big headache down the line.

If there's not a photo on the website already, always ask for one before setting up a meeting. It confirms what the profile tells you and gives you an idea of what they look like (important to some, not so much to others).

If the person balks at this for any reason, don't get involved any further. They're obviously trying to keep something hidden from you, possibly a spouse.

How would you feel if you showed a picture of your new beau to someone and they said, "Oh, that's so-and-so's husband." Talk about embarrassing!

Caution is key here. Use it in abundance and again, listen for the voice of the Lord.

In part 2 of this series, we’ll look at the dos and don’ts of meeting face-to-face.  Now, move on to Part 2

In part one, we looked at the importance of remaining anonymous, why you should always ask for a picture of your online dating prospect, and how the Holy Spirit can lead and guide your efforts.

In this final segment, we’ll talk about the dos and don’ts of making phone contact as well as the all-important first date (first date tips).

Tip #4: Time to Make the Call

So you're feeling comfortable enough to exchange phone numbers?

One word: STOP!

If you're ready to talk on the phone, that's fine--just don't hand them your home or cell number quite yet.

Remember, you're only going by what you've seen and read in the incredibly anonymous world of the internet. Your best bet is to make it a pay phone.

This way you can still get to know the other person better while keeping your identity secret.

Plus, a pay phone gives you an excuse to cut the conversation short if things aren't working out the way you had hoped.

And again, if the other party tries to pressure you into something you're not comfortable with, take a hike!

Tip #5: Going Public

By now, you're pretty comfortable about things. You've had long conversations online and by telephone, you feel like the Holy Spirit is giving you a thumbs-up, and you're ready to meet face-to-face.

That's great! But there are still a few things to think about before getting together.

• First of all, always always ALWAYS plan to meet in a public place.

This is extremely important.

Make sure plenty of people are around--there's safety in numbers. The last thing you want is to be some place secluded if things start getting uncomfortable.

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