Creating An Effective Personal Ad That Gets Results: Do's and Don'ts by Anna Winters
People are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your immediate family. You can talk about your childcare arrangements and coaching little league soccer, etc later.
People looking at your profile want to know you have time for them. Focusing on your children and their activities can give the impression that you will have limited time. What you are looking for: Think about who you are and what you are looking for.
To make friends? Fall in love? Meet someone to hang out with? Do you want something short term or long term? Do you just want to chat with?
(Ex. I am looking for a cultured man between 32-45 who is a Christian, attends church, college educated, and is into opera and gallery hopping). (Ex. Looking for a down to earth gal between 22-30 that likes the country, camping, country music, country dancing and NASCAR).
Don't say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married....this will scare a lot of people away. Its good idea to state the general type of person you are hoping to meet, but don't overdo it. If you set down too many requirements you will miss out on the opportunity to meet some great people, and quite possibly the one that is just right for you.
Affectionate, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman.
Words to Avoid:
Some of the bad stuff I have seen in ads. (On some systems, you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or in an email). These guys have read too many Penthouse magazines and need to look in the alternative personals. Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular/metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I'd love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, fuck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words.
This stuff is SCARY to most women and runs them off. You can tweak and improve your profile as you go along. Tweaking your profile: If you're getting the type of responses you're looking for, great.
If you're getting responses from the wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you'd like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more.
Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks. How to search for a new friend:
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