And if this does not rekindle the flame in the heart of your partner it will repel them and attract one that is better suited to who you are now. Romance is about relationships and getting to know another person. It is about the discovery of your own beauty through the eyes of an attentive other.
Part of what makes it feel good, of what keeps you open to receiving, is your recognition of qualities that you appreciate in this other person. It is your focus on the beauty you find in them.
What makes Romance go bad? When does it stop feeling good and start feeling bad? When you discover and focus on things you do not like in this other person.
These bad feelings are an indication that you are focused on something that you do not want. They are an indication that you are pinching off your connection with your life giving, energizing, All Knowing and All Seeing Source.
Does pinching off your Source sound like something you want to do?
It is not because you or they have done something bad that you are cut off from your Source. It is your focus on what you do not want the cuts you off from your Source. This article is not intended to address how to deal with the dramatically abusive things that happen in some relationships.
If you need that kind of help then please seek appropriate counseling. The concepts addressed here will help, but you will also need help understanding how so many of the ideas that you hold about life keep you from the happiness you seek.
Most relationships suffer from a break down in focus way before any of the more serious problems occur. One event at a time each person notices something they don’t like in their partner. Then they focus on it and make it a little bigger.
When you worry about something your partner did or does, and you tell others about how annoying it is, you are focusing your attention on it and you are shifting your vibration so that it matches those same unwanted behaviors.
You are actually turning yourself into a magnet for more such experiences. Not only that but if you are telling others about it you are probably setting up resentments in them towards your partner.
So now there are two people holding negative energy towards your partner. Your friend may even begin to distance themselves from you because of the negative energy they perceive that you are making them feel. Can you see how this would affect you?
Can you see how this is not romantic energy you will be feeling, or even open to feeling if you are holding such thoughts in your mind? Can you see how this would affect your partner?
We all respond to our feelings and the feelings we pick up from others much more than we consciously realize. These feelings push and pull us, most don’t know why they go where they do, but yet they do go.
Your work is to become conscious of the energies at play in your life and romantic relationships give you plenty of chances to generate the widest variety of feelings.