by Arvind Devalia
Are you single?
Do you want to attract dream relationship
Everyone dreams of that ideal relationship – one that is full of love and affection.
A relationship with someone that you connect with mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
We all want to meet our soul mate.
So how does one find love, true love?
The key thing is to focus on creating your ideal life.
To attract & create your ideal relationship, shift your focus away from attracting a partner & wanting a relationship.
Focus instead on creating the kind of life that you truly want.
The kind of life that excites you so much that you jump out of bed every morning.
Once you are in such a clearing, your dream partner can simply walk in and join you.
The dream relationship should be the icing on the cake that is your life, and not the end all & be all of your life.
To create your ideal life, ask your self what it is going to be about.
What do you want to do for a living and what do you contribute to the world?
Where do you want to live and how much money do you want to make?
The key to attract dream relationship is to make your self truly happy right now and also to remain happy regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.
This is not to say that you don't go in for things like speed dating.
Just treat these as fun and social events.
The trick with making the most of these events is to focus on your best points and be proud of that.
For example, you may have a great smile and so show it off.
To make an impact with your speed dating partner, ask unusual or even outrageous questions such as – what turns you on the most about a person of the opposite sex?
This is sure to make an impression rather than the usual questions such as what do you do, and where do you come from.
Also, listen to the other person – we have two ears and one mouth – so listen at least twice as much as you talk.
Finally it is okay to be rejected when asking someone out on a date.
It is only their opinion and their choice.
And with all dating related events, have no attachment to the outcome and have fun.
Otherwise why would you even do it?
As for creating a clearing in your life for that dream partner to walk in, or that attract dream relationship, here are some tips:
1. Be complete and in peace with past relationships. Drop the baggage from the past.
Let go of hurts and resentments towards anyone from your past.
Forgive and reconcile with that ex-partner who was so mean to you.
The true test is to meet such a person from your past and to not feel any negative thoughts.
2. Review with truth and with accuracy on how you've behaved in previous relationships.
Since by definition you are single, your past relationships have not worked out for whatever reason.
And like it or not, that makes you at least 50% responsible for them not working out.
Get clarity on what you contributed to those relationships not working out.
Be kind to yourself as you do this. Do not make it an excuse to beat your self up all over again.
3. Review your beliefs about relationships.
What do you think should happen at different stages – from courtship to living together?
What are your entrenched beliefs about the opposite sex?
For example, from your cultural heritage, what are the expected roles and duties of a partner?
4. Get clear about what you want in a relationship.
Make the fulfillment of your short term and long term needs the criteria for choosing a partner.
Don't make the list long. Otherwise no one will be good enough for you. You'll be single longer.
Just make it precise.
Determine what are the must haves (shorter list) and the nice to have (longer list)
5. Define and get clear about your ideal relationship and partner.
Be realistic, and ask what your needs are rather than your wants.
What must your relationship have?
What are the absolute essentials for you to thrive?
6. Socialize and have fun so as to create a varied, rich life and to be part of a healthy supportive community, and to enhance your life.
You will therefore focus not so much on meeting your partner and more on creating a rich vibrant life, one which will be so attractive to a potentially dream catch.
Most people usually socialize in various ways so as to meet their dream partner, and by simply having fun and enjoying your life you become so much more attractive.
Make your life work and make room for your ideal partner.
Once you have your life working for you, and you are happy, you will indeed attract the right partner.
Remember, you deserve the best.
And that includes a dream relationship and the ideal partner.
Don’t accept second best.
Get clear about what you want in your life partner and why – and you can have it.
Please call me on +44 20 7286 8655 for a complimentary coaching consultation. Alternatively email me at arvind@nirvanacoaching.com
About the Author:
"Transform your Life - make it Extraordinary" Nirvana Coaching Ltd 76 Hamilton Terrace St Johns Wood LondonNW8 9UL Coaching website: www.nirvanacoaching.com Charity website:www.nirvanatrust.com Email: arvind@nirvanacoaching.com
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Arvind Devalia is a Life & Business Coach and writer who runsNirvana Coaching. He has appeared on many radio shows,newspapers and magazines. He is the author of "Get a LIfe" a simple but very powerful self help book.Arvind produces amonthly coaching newsletter called "Get a Life", packed withtips, tools, and strategies to dramatically improve the quality of your life. Subscribe today at http://www.nirvanacoaching.com
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