Can’t find Mr. Right? Compromise, don’t settle.
However, it must always be your decision. You and no one else know how much you are willing to compromise or sacrifice to achieve happiness in a relationship.
Five ways to Compromise without settling
A self confident independent woman may assume that eligible men would see her as a valuable asset to a relationship and flock her for dates. More often than not this does not happen.
Men may not openly admit it, but an attractive independent and self –confident woman can be intimidating to them. And many times men overlook them assuming they are already spoken for.
Some of the career women I interviewed however said. Men hesitate to date us because they feel our standards are not easy to live up to.”
Men on the other hand say they can quickly recognize a woman’s unwillingness to compromise in a relationship, and it’s for this reason they shy away.
Five ways to make your self more approachable.
• Let the world know you are single.
• Be friendly. Initiate conversations by asking questions and making interesting statements. Show interest when listening to others.
• Don’t be aggressive. Smile, -- a pleasant relaxed smile without being false.
• Use your sense of humor. You don’t have to be a stand-up comic --- simply reply humorously to questions. ---- make people feel relaxed in your presence.
• Don’t appear to take up a lot of space when in the presence of others.
This sends a signal of power and superiority, according to nationally acclaimed body language expert Patti Woods who says. “Women who want men to approach them must show that there is room for someone else in their lives.
2. Modify your perception of Mr. Right
Since childhood you’ve had a mental picture of the person with whom you will fall in love and eventually marry simply. The fact that you have not found him until now could mean,
1. He is a rare specie.
2. You do not easily attract this type of man. Perhaps it’s time to consider changing your outlook.
This of course is much more easily said than done; childhood perceptions can be difficult to erase, but consider this.
Say your perception of Mr. Right has always been a man who is tall, handsome, debonair and physically fit, but every relationship you’ve had with such men failed.
You may want to stop and ask yourself why. And after careful consideration, you may conclude your image of Mr. Right might be a lifelong fantasy that bears no relevance to the person you are now.