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Mid-Life Looking for Guy? Here's Help.
by Susan Dunn


Keep in mind abundance – there’s someone for everyone, and the goal is to find a good fit, in which case, it really isn’t a competition.

However, if you’re a bit rusty, take a look around you when you’re out because you want to be current.

Make sure your curb appeal is up-to-date.

Watch other women when they’re flirting; there’s a style to that as well.

It will help you get in the zone to watch some women in action.

Brush up on your flirting skills.


Catch his eye.

Work up some friendly opening lines to have handy.


You know how they say “multiple income streams”? Well, you’re going to need multiple outgoing streams.

Your plan is to meet new people. The good thing about this is that you’ll collect friends and adventures, maybe even clients or a new job whatever else happens, so none of this is wasted.

Get out, attend, join and participate.

If the doors are open, and people will be there, YOU be there. Assuming that you work, you have the noon hour, evenings and weekends.

Now here are some suggestions – and do them ALL:

·Join singles clubs and participate.
 ·Join and get active in a faith organization
 ·Go to any event open to the public – chamber of commerce, fundraising, Fun Runs, political, galas.
 ·Join the online dating services such as eharmony - http://tinyurl.com/2lyea
 ·Let your friends and family know that you’d like some introductions to nice single men they know
·Be open to possibilities when you’re out at the mall, grocery, andsporting goods store. Pay some visits Home Depot. Look like you’re lost, and if you see a cute guy, ask him about torque wrenches.
 ·Visit art museums, go to the races and sports events.
 ·Join some sports places. Word has it workout gyms are not a good place to look (for either sex), but someone I know met a great guy when she was taking SCUBA diving lessons.
 ·Volunteer! And volunteer to do things that put you in a strategic location. My favorites are staffing the nametag table and serving as hostess or greeter. Everybody who enters must pass by me.
·Build a house with Habitat for Humanity. Mid-life guys love manual labor.

·Consider a goofy now-and-then job like doing the food demos in the grocery store on Saturday afternoon. Notwithstanding the silly “hat”, you’ll be in a prime position to look ‘em over and hook ‘em in. Or stock books in a bookstore one evening a week if you like guys who read.
 ·Take your dog walking in different parks, especially Saturday mornings.
 ·Setup a blog on an interesting topic.
 ·Guys are physical.  Go kayaking, camping out, hiking or bike riding; join a tennis league.
 ·Hang out at Starbucks on Saturday
So there’s your plan.

Now approach it with enthusiasm and determination and remember to include all these things in your mix.

Good luck!

About the Author: 

©Susan Dunn, MA, Midlife Transitions Coach,http://www.susandunn.cc.Susan is the author of “Midlife Dating Survival Manual for Women,”http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html and offers coaching for people in transition. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free EQ ezine, with “ezine” for SL.


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