When Lena, 52, began dating, her son, Paul, joined the same dating site. Together, mother and son set out to find love. Lena’s family was concerned for her.
After 30 years of marriage, she was very vulnerable. What did she know about dating or sexually transmitted diseases?
Lena knew one thing: love does not have a best-before date.
Lena is one of many fiery over 50 dames with lots of life. The idea of dating put a sparkle into her eyes. After a few unproductive “let’s meet for coffee” dates, she struck gold!
Ryan, whom she met in her doctor’s waiting room, was everything she hoped for. A widower without children, Ryan was like a breath of fresh air.
He put romance and zest into her life. They fell madly in love and lived happily ever after.
This is a dating dream come true for most older, single women. Today, dating over 50 is just as common as dating at a younger age. However, there are profound differences in life circumstances and experiences.
Unfortunately, not all dating adventures of older singles have happy endings. Dating at a mature age comes with baggage.
Ex wives, stepchildren, step-grandchildren, in-laws, lifestyles or commitments, just to name a few.
This baggage prevents many singles from creating close relationships. Yet, there are good news for all mature singles, who have not found their “one and only”:
As a mature person you have qualities such patience, integrity, and wisdom and are much better equipped for relationship success than the younger generation. Use exactly those qualities to find love and avoid silly dating etiquettes.
While dating can be fun and highly entertaining, for most singles over 50 it is about finding a life-mate. Regardless of your relationship history, love can last the second time around. Just trust your instinct and follow these common sense tips:
BE TRUTHFUL about yourself. Naturally you want to paint your very best picture, but the key to finding a compatible love is being authentic instead of pretending.
Being real may not guarantee a huge number of dates, but at this stage in your life it is about quality, not quantity. You are mature and don’t need a black book filled with admirers.
RESPECT that a first date is like a fishing trip. Both parties want to determine if there is enough interest for a second date. Be on time and be interested in your date. Share your likes and dislikes openly.
By all means give each other a chance, but if you are not interested, make it easy to call the quits.