You’ll never have to play guessing games with this man.
And incidentally, if you are the type of woman that’s into playing games, then move on, because this is NOT the kind of man that you should be playing games with.
While we’re on the subject, you shouldn’t be playing games with any body – man, woman or child – any way!
So, if you’re lucky enough to have a MR. RIGHT/MR. GOOD MAN strut into your life, what should you do? Check your ego at the door. Be DEPENDABLE and not DEPENDENT. Bring an open mind, an open heart, and a sense of humor to the table.
Don’t half-step, because he won’t.
If he’s giving you 100%, then you need to give 100% in return to him. Learn what his likes and dislikes are. Be a partner and a teammate.
If you don’t know how, ask him.
He’ll tell you and show you.
Be concerned about his happiness . . . his physical, emotional and psychological well-being. Be honest about your feelings and your expectations.
If you make him a promise, make you sure keep it.
And if you find that you can’t keep your promise, be an adult – let him know that you can’t and tell him why.
Sure, he’ll be disappointed, but he will also know that you cared enough about him to be straight with him.
Always be willing to listen to what he has to say.
Be his cheerleader.
When he’s struggling to reach his goals and he gets a little discouraged, encourage him to keep at it.
Tell him you believe in him.
Ask if you can help.
You may not be able to. He may not want your help. He may even tell you that. But at least you showed an interest. You showed your concern. And that will mean a lot to him.
About the Author: D.A. Sears is the Managing Editor of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD® FORUM FOR AND ABOUT THE FATHERS OF THE WORLD, a quarterly international male parenting publication which provides Men who are Father throughout the global village with a safe harbor to free expressly their dreams, joys, fears, solutions and frustrations concerning issues directly and indirectly related to Fatherhood that is exclusively published and distributed by BSI International, Inc. (www.bsi-international.com) in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Sears is the author of a book on Fatherhood “IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD® --
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