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He Still Hasn't Popped the Question - Should You Give Him an Ultimatum?
by Terry Hernon MacDonald

Replace a bad habit with a good one by taking a class, signing up for yoga, or going away for the occasional weekend with the friends you’ve been neglecting since you hooked up with What’s-His-Name.

In other words, don’t be so available.

Fill your time with opportunities to meet new people.

Get to know yourself better (you’re worth getting to know).

By all means, hang out with the guy from every now and then but limit time with his family. Resist all inclinations to “wife and mother” him.

Let him bake you a cake for a change.

Will he come to his senses?

Will he fall on both knees and make all your Cinderella fantasies come true?

Well, here are three possibilities:

1) He won’t miss you all that much, freeing you to find happiness elsewhere;

2) You’ll realize you don’t miss him all that much and hold out for a man who’ll love you as much as you love him; or

3) He’ll ask you to marry him, and you’ll tell him yes or no, confident that you’re making the best choice for your own future happiness.

Keep in mind that if you say yes, the guy’s obnoxious college buddies and lunatic mother are part of the package. 


You will then see that a marriage ultimatum wasn't necessary.

If you’re clever, you may get away with scaling back on his nieces and nephews’ gifts a bit.

How much baking, cooking, and laundry you take on, however, is entirely up to you.

About the Author:
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams" and the host of "Romance Talk with Terry" on http://www.healthylife.net radio. Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com.

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