I've always found an underlying self esteem issue when people spend a lot of time making fun of themselves. That's not the same as being able to laugh at ones mistakes on occasion. I'm talking about habitually devaluing one's self.
Also, is he able to find joy in someone else's jokes? You don't want someone who only laughs at his own jokes and nobody else's.
Does the sound of his laughter fill you with joy? Listen to the actual sound of his laughter. Does the sound make your heart go pitter patter?
It doesn't matter if he sounds like thunder on a summer day or if he giggles like a little girl!
What matters is that his laughter is infectious and makes your heart lighten. Imagine coming home from a really bad day at work. Make him fall deeply in love with this
Upon entering the house, you hear his laughter coming from the kitchen. Does that sound lift your spirits? Or infuriate you even more?
You want to be with someone who's laughter makes your heart sing. Laughter is the best medicine and you want to chose a man who's laughter heals your weary mind.
Do you laugh at the same things? Yes, you want to be your own person with your own interests and your own unique sense of self, but you also want to share good times with your partner. You need to pick someone who has a similar sense of humor to your own.
There's nothing worse then having your partner roll their eyes like you're so uncool every time you burst out laughing. What determines a person's sense of humor is wide and varied, including upbringing and level of education.
If you share the same overall sense of humor, chances are that you are fairly compatible in those areas. You're somewhat on the same wave length. Do you laugh at the same time?
You want to pretty much agree on when is the proper time and place for goofing around and making each other laugh.
If he likes to crack jokes and laugh a lot during foreplay and you find it to be a total turn off, then you're going to have problems. If he keeps laughing at your girlfriends when you're trying to have a serious conversation, then you're not going to get along so well. This also works in the other direction.
If you're the one who is constantly laughing and joking and he's the one getting upset that your timing is inappropriate, then you're not going to like hanging out with a fuddy duddy. Compatibility shows itself in little things like timing.
If you've already got a guy and you're considering spending the rest of your life with him, start watching his laughter. Decide if the things you see are what you want in a lifetime companion and get hitched with him.
If you don't have a man, imagine sitting at the kitchen table over coffee and hearing his laughter at something witty you've just said.
How would it sound? How would it feel to be in his presence when he was laughing?
Look for a man who's laughter heals you rather than grates on your nerves.
And make sure you both laugh together and often. It'll get you both through the tough times.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's EdgeAbout the Author: