Women And "Bad Boys": What Is The Attraction?
*roles that she has been in throughout her life
If a woman feels good about herself, she chooses a mate who communicates both orally and non-verbally to her that she is valued and respected.
She won't allow this other person to undermine her positive self-worth.
She believes in her ability to participate in a healthy, reciprocal relationship.
If she doesn't feel good about herself, she chooses someone who reinforces her negative self-beliefs.
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If a woman is capable of true intimacy, she is open to the true availability of the other person. She wants him to be a full and active participant in the relationship.
She can allow herself to be open, vulnerable and able to take as well as to receive all that true intimacy offers.
If intimacy is difficult, she choose someone who is distant, hard to connect with and not emotionally and/or physically available.
If a woman has had a healthy role in her relationships since childhood, she will choose someone with whom she can continue this healthy interaction.
If a woman has been too long in the role of rescuer, caregiver or the one who sacrifices for the good of others, this will probably be the role she will seek out in her relationships. Fortunately, most women fall somewhere in between on these issues.
So the task is to evaluate yourself in each area and decide on a course of action that will help you to choose a "nice guy," who stirs your senses and meets your needs while being truly available for a real relationship.
Begin with an assessment of what you value most in life and cannot live without. Go to http://www.consum-mate.com/newslets/02oct.htm for an article on "clarifying and living your values".
Once you know what is most important to you and believe that you are worthy of achieving it, you will have taken a giant step towards finding the right partner for you.
Before you know it, you will be in your honeymoon destination having a fantastic time in a fabulous Hawaii vacation resort
About the Author:
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man or Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com