from http://www.ihatemen.com
Lately, I've received a lot of e-mail from men asking what they SHOULD do to be the kind of men that women want.
And being the kind, generous person that I am, I decided to give these poor creatures a little help.
I've started a list of things that men can do to please me (Relationship Tips for Men, dating tips for men, flirting tips for men) and I want to hear from you too.
What things win you over?
What's the sweetest thing a guy has done for you?
What do you wish a guy would do?
Are you a guy who did something that made a woman really happy?
Let's teach these men a thing or two about how to treat women....
Understand the fact that if a girl says she "isn't ready for a commitment" or "doesn't want a boyfriend right now," what she really means is that she doesn't want these things with you, she might with someone else. Don't wait around for her to change her mind.
OK men, I'm going to skip the obvious because if you don't know these things, you require more help than I can give. Things like honesty, faithfulness, love, concern, kindness, interest, sincerity, respect & all those other basic considerations are a given. Now for some more "advanced" tips of the trade....
If you are going to buy a woman flowers, do not simply order a dozen red roses. That takes absolutely no thought or imagination. It is a cliche. Buy tulips. Or Daisies. Or a bunch of wildflowers. Not only is that more impressive, it's usually cheaper too! :-)
Don't go to a movie on a first date. Learn more on what to do on a first date. You can't talk & get to know each other. Plus, it's awkward sitting in silence with someone you barely know.
Go to dinner.
Have coffee.
Visit a museum.
Have a romantic picnic in a field somewhere.
Anything that allows you to actually interact with each other
Don't be a pushover.
I'm not saying you should be a dickhead but for God's sake, have a backbone.
It is impossible to respect a guy who caters to a woman's every whim. We may think we like it at first but it gets old, really quickly.
Although I don't think that guys always have to pay for a date, they do have to pay for the first date.
If you invite a girl to your house, put any pictures of ex-girlfriends in a drawer or a box. Nobody wants to see that.
If my dog hates you, you have no shot.
I trust my dog's judgment. So be nice to the dogs.
And cats. And rabbits. And ferrets. And birds. And mice. Women are serious about their pets.
Birthdays are a big deal. Never forget that.
On a similar note, things like "I need my space" or "Let's take a break" or "Let's date other people" means that there is someone else she wants to date and she does not want to date you anymore. Just let it go. It's easy to cross the line here into scary-stalker-guy
Do not whine.
Nothing gets me to avoid someone faster than hearing, "Why haven't you called me?" or "You don't pay enough attention to me."
You can't force someone to pay attention to you. And it really is annoying to have to listen to it.
When looking for women online, read their profiles before talking to them.
Then you can avoid annoying them by asking questions to which you SHOULD already know the answers
The girl always walks in front of the guy, especially if in a restaurant.
Here's a novel idea, try being straight up about what you want when you meet a girl. Don't act like you love her and want a relationship just to get sex.
Try telling her what you really think. You might be surprised at the result and there will be no hurt feelings later.
"You are hot" and "You are sexy" are not the thrilling compliments you seem to think, particularly if I don't know you.
Try things like, "You are funny" or "You are intelligent" instead. A little flattery, THOUGHTFUL FLATTERY, can't hurt.
Women want one main thing in their love lives, love.
It's not that hard guys. And even if you don't love her, at least turn us down easy enough before you cheat and sleep with our friends. Do you have any decency?
Guys, never tell your girl how beautiful your last girlfriend was and how everyone wanted her. Are you trying to get dumped?
When you meet a woman for the first time, and you talk about yourself non-stop, this only reinforces the stereotypes we already have about you that you are a self-centered, self-entitled child. Consider offering some information on yourself, and then asking thoughtful questions about the woman you are with.
Hold her hand.
Simple, when you're walking around just hold her hand. And don't be ashamed to hug her, or put your arm around her when you're with your mates. Simple things like that'll let her know you care.
Although you may think we're high maintenance, etc., it's better than being slobs (cough cough). Overall, treat us with respect. Don't cheat.
Call when you say you will - it doesn't hurt!
Don't worry.
And show us you care. And if you are no longer interested in us, which can happen, turn us down nicely at least.
If you want to break up with a woman, do it to her face and be honest. No letters, e-mails or phone calls. To the face and no, "I still care for you..." crap. END IT if you're going to do it.
Remember to hold and kiss your wife/girlfriend during and after sex
. If you don't, you won't get sex for a while! Women love to kiss.
Don't call nor pay a visit to your girlfriend, and especially not your wife, when you are drunk...sorry that's a huge turn off, you don't look good slurring with your eyes half shut...we'd rather be spared that image..
After age 21, it's really a good idea to move out of your parents' house. It's time you do your own laundry!
Don't call nor pay a visit to your girlfriend, and especially not your wife, when you are drunk...sorry that's a huge turn off, you don't look good slurring with your eyes half shut...we'd rather be spared that image..
NEVER compare her to ANYONE else that you have EVER been with.
Don't lie. You will ALWAYS get caught.
Whether it's a minute or two later, or three years down the road, your lies will always come back to bite you in the butt. Be honest. What's so hard about that? If a girl says she won't get mad if you tell her the truth, she usually means it. (I can't speak for everyone though, because if you're gonna admit you cheated or anything else along those lines...BYE BYE.
You deserve to get yelled at...and much worse.) But seriously...why lie? And when you get caught...why stick to your lie? That drives us crazy, especially when you switch it all around to make it seem like we were the ones who lied, or that we just don't know what we're talking about. Please guys, just try to be more truthful!
Lying will get you no where but HELL.
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