(..or how to overcoming being dumped). Hey there sweet people.
Hurricanes really suck.
Even if they do not reach you, they still threaten your safety net.
Florida survived last years attack of Mother Nature, so we are a little more courageous this year.
Not much, but a little.
I would love to meet the person that pissed her off (Mother Nature).
Not only does she get even, but she does it with a vengeance. What everybody ought to know about how to letting go of someone you love
That's like PMS & Menopause all rapped up.
So, for all you poor souls that are in for that ride(PMS & Menopause), and have no clue what it is all about, think hurricane.
It can turn in a second and destroy you.
Oh, and it has many names also, like bitch, nag, crazy, nuts, annoying, female, insane, messed up, pms'ing, hallucinating, on drugs, stupid bitch, mentally challenged, and that's just a few, except they are not in an alphabetical order like the hurricanes.
OK so we are disorganized.
BITE ME! You seriously have to be PMS`ing to be able to understand (winks).
I can only hope that everyone gets as many laughs as I have so far typing this.
OK, now onto more serious matters in life.
Today I received a question from a guy.
Here is what he said:
"Posted by Anonymous The last woman I was involved with was quite full of herself. So then why did she dump me?"
And my answer to him was this... "Posted by Dorothy
Hey there, sorry to hear about your being dumped.
Not knowing either of you, it is really hard to answer that question.
There are many reasons for people walking away from a relationship.
It could have plain worn out.
Also they could have found someone else.
Either way, it sucks, and you have to deal with the pain, and learn to get on with your life.
It is a challenge, but it does make you aware, of what being human is all about.
There is a saying; "If it doesn’t kill you. it will only make you stronger."
Also I am a firm believer in: "Things do happen for a reason." Hang in there, things will get better, if you let them.
Take Care and thank you for sharing that with me."
"Being Dumped" really is one of the worst experiences, short of death that we, as humans are faced with in our lives.
They say that, death of a loved one is easier to learn to live with, than a break-up , "Being Dumped" or rejection.
All of the above tell us that we are unacceptable to someone.
We immediately turn it into ourselves and that's when the self-blame seed is sown.
Through self-blame we begin to feel shame.
Shame is so painful, that no one talks about it or even wants to think about it.
Shame is the least identified emotion we as humans deal with, because we are ashamed of our shame.
Shame, is yet another negative emotion, that captures and imprisons us in a pit of hell.
It pulls us into a life of silence and inactivity, lying and hiding our true fears.
When we are rejected in any situation, it is a true hit to our self-esteem.
If we are weak in that area, then our fall is going to be very hard.
If we are strong in that area, we will quickly become weak.
I wrote this in a recent blog: "When we first fall in love; what is that saying, "Love is Blind"?
Ha! Now that's funny, because it really is blind. We trust so instantly and genuinely that we potentially set ourselves up for the biggest fall in our lives.
Why is that?
Is it because we are so driven by nature to want to trust someone?
Or is trusting someone just a happier, easier, way of life."
So there it is, we as humans, live to love and want to be loved.
We are blinded by the romance of the word ~ LOVE~.
We are made happy by the word~LOVE~, but we are also hurt by the word ~LOVE~.
So why do we continually set ourselves up?
We are gambling, and we do not even know it.
Or, is life simply just that, a gamble?
The bottom line is, no one wants to get "DUMPED", because it is not in our nature to know how to accept it.
How many of you have been, "DUMPED" and just knew that your life had ended?
You just knew that you will never see anything the same again.
Yes, your partnership has ended with a person, and maybe it was not expected, but nor are hurricanes or wars.
We deal with it all, we have to.
We chose to survive.
Think of it as starting a new life.
Newness is positive and healthy.
Look at things differently, and embrace all that newness.
Do not fear it. "BEING DUMPED", is just another chapter in your book of life.
If you had no chapters, think how dull your book would be.
Now, you can open your self to another chapter, and believe me, there are many.
If you spend the rest of your life wondering all the "WHY`S", just think, you have wasted even more of your precious time on something that has chosen another road.
As for the fact that a person is, full of them, that really has nothing to do with the "Why's" of "Being Dumped".
Even the most confident people close doors on relationships.
They in fact, have more courage to do so than a person of less confidence, or being less full of themselves, so to speak.
All we know is that the decision has been made and you as a person, with intelligence, must turn the page.
Getting stuck in that feeling just makes therapists rich. (wink)
Life offers many, many humps and bumps.
We trip and fall, over and over again.
The trick is to get real good at picking yourself up and dusting off the old dirt.
This is life.
I told my daughter, when she was struck by her first cupids arrow, "If you are going to get emotionally involved, be prepared to get emotionally uninvolved."
One very important thing we must remember; when we are at the bottom and we feel we are worthless and will never ever TRUST again, it's is a nothing more than a human emotion.
We know it as doubt. We can over come doubt very easily.
Look in the mirror, and tell yourself, that you are UNIQUE, and you are going to make happiness your goal.
You must risk all the falls to reach that goal.
Letting yourself believe that you are deserving of another relationship is truly a risk, again another gamble.
But what is life without a little risk?
We have the power to overcome our negative self.
We just need to DO IT!!
"Self doubt is not an option!
Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we often might gain by fearing attempt." -Shakespeare
About the author: Dorothy Lafrinere, Owner/Operater