Would it be nice after a date or after you've met if he calls or texts that night and sets a second date?
Instead, he texts. And texts. But doesn't call.
He might even do it many times per day since.
He obviously likes you. Otherwise, he would not text you that much.
What to make of that?
Why all of these texts and doesn't call after the first date
You are looking for a more real connection then your white smartphone screen.
First, let's understand what might be really going on.
He might be afraid of rejection
It is possible your signs of interests and attraction are not clear enough for him. He might be the kind of guy that needs more safety signs to go ahead for the kill.
To tests if this is the case, compliment him 2-3 times on things that he said. Be sincere. Don't say something that you don't mean.
It can backfire. He will feel how phony that sounds and might loose interests.
You may say things as follows:
"I admire how hard working you are. It is a great/admirable/ quality in man"
"That is exacly what I am looking for in someone; a man who cooks!"
"Wow you can really multi task! Not many men can do that trust me! lol!"
"You always keep you promises; when you say something, we can count on you it will be done. I like that"
Compliment him on skills that you have noticed and appreciate.
No drug or dessert can boost a man's ego then appreciation of what he does.
If after that he still doesn't make a move to call you or an invite, I suggest you move on to the next male ego.
He has a weak self-esteem
Some sad reality with some men;
Men enjoy collecting phone numbers. It gives them a fake feeling of having value due to society's standards and expectations.
They can text as many as two, four, five women at the time.
They build a hoard of women to text on a regular basis to boost their egos, to feel they are not so lonely.
Beware you are not part of the club for too long.
Some men text so much per day that they would surely win a contest against my mom who used to be a typewriter for a living.
If he texts you random texts about himself similar to ''leaving work now'', ''heading to my car'', or ''going for lunch'' is NOT a way for him to show that he is thinking about you.
He might be seeking for attention from you.
That is not an indication that he wants to share his life with you.
He might even talk about getting together.
But never sets a place AND a time.
Oh. Bad sign. Not good.
Most probably, this man doesn't see you in his future.
You probably feed his ego, so he keeps up the flirting and texting because it makes him feel good.You are useful until he meets the one.
Don't blame if he persits in doing so; you are contributing to his ego feeding needs.
If you accept that he only texts you, never calls you, never asks you out clearly on a date, you are encouraging with all the blessings in this world his behavior.
He should be able to invite you out within 10 days.
If he doesn't, here is what you can do;
+ You can stop answering his texts and move on. You are searching for real deep love afterall!
+ You can ask him out
+ You can call him out on his behavior skillfully
A) Ask him out.
You can randomly send him a text "are you up for a cup of coffees sometimes?"
He may replies with a strong "No". A strong "No" means he declines the offer without any attempt to reschedule.
In this case, you better stop texting him.
B) Make your point. Express your dislike. Draw a line.
If you don't express that you have an issue with all the texting, then he simply won’t stop. It makes him feel good. Why stop a good thing he is thinking?
He texts because it is allowed. By you.
If a woman accepts less, then most men will give less
I don’t encourage to be rude or nasty.
Just stop de waste of time and energy.
Here are some phrases you may use:
"I noticed something about you - You looooove texting" – taken from Matthew Hussey's video tip
Exagerate what you do or want to do in a ridiculous non probable way as:
"Glad to hear you’re having a great day, Seth. I would like to hear your voice. 🙂 Shout me a call tonight after I get back from the gym, is it alright?”
Raise up the level of connection - Don't be a bore
According to pick up artist Mehow, (yes you read right – Mehow), when a guy texts you, you should reply in a way to get his energy up and prep for a connection with you.
Use of humour, imagination etc… in a fun and classy way BEFORE you ask for what you desire.
Watch the video below on a real situation;
he isn’t serious enough about being with you. No need to get mad at the guy.
Don’t be afraid that you’re losing your potential boyfriend.
You’re not. You’re freeing yourself of the burden of waiting for an indifferent man to show you he cares.
If he cared about you, he’d WANT to call you, WANT to see you, WANT to commit to you.A man isn’t going to give a woman a more time-consuming action such as talking if he does not see the value in it
Men are competitive by nature
For all he knows you have a line of guys waiting for their shot with you. If he’s into you, he won’t risk some other guy snatching you up while he was “too busy” working on a project.
When we dig someone, we can’t get enough. We want to know every story, every detail.If a guy doesn’t tell you anything about himself, it also means he’s not really feeling it.
If a guy is into you, he will open up and will peel back that outer layer
If a guy is into you,
+ He’ll make it known clearly that he wants another date.
+ He might mention other date ideas he has for the two of you but he’ll stay in touch,
+ He'll say hi or send you a Facebook funny video because when you think about someone, you think about them all the time, and when you think about them, you want to connect with them.
+ He can be busy as well under devil's pressure, he will still reach out to you
He will ask you out. He will call you. He will pursue you.
He will want to see you. He will find a spot into his schedule.
You will feel safe.
End the nonsense. Free yourself
Another bad sign is if he doesn’t call when he says he will.
If a guy says he’ll call you at a certain time and then doesn’t keep his promises, it means you are not important to him.
Let him go.
Doesn't matter how much you have a crush him.
Let him go.
Here is a way to "text" him on it.
“You seem like a good guy, Steve, but I’m wondering now if we are looking for the same thing. I’m looking for a boyfriend. And since all you’ve done is text me and or not keeping your promises, I’m going to take that as a sign that you’re not that interested in a relationship. No worries. No hard feelings. I wish you the luck in what you are looking for. Take care.”
The texter has already shown his stained colors. All you’re doing is calling him out.
You've lost nothing.
Because there was nothing.
You cannot get real love with fake potential.
You are saving yourself from wasting your time and energy.
And ending up being always THE single person at your friends's weddings.
Make him fall deeply in love with this
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