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The Man Who Said He'd Call and Didn't

by Terry Hernon MacDonald

You went out with the guy on a first date.

Both of you had a great time (or at least you thought he did!).

On the goodnights, and he said he will call you.


What did you do to repulse him?

Was it your hair? Your clothes? Your weight? too much or not enough?

What's wrong with you, anyway?

The answers to those questions are as follows:

 Who cares?

Nothing, no, no, no, and not a damn thing.

Each one woman in the world--no matter how pleasant, glamorous, smart, kind or beautiful--has been frustrated by a guy she fancied who said he'd call but didn't.

Whatever you think or feel or do, don't call him.


Because he said he'd call you, and the man didn't call.

Which means that he doesn't keep his promises (better to know that now!), or that he threw away your phone number by mistake with the tin foil he wrapped his peanut butter sandwich in.

I agree that women have every right to give a ring to a man (as long as they're cool about it), but why put yourself at a disadvantage by calling someone who obviously has lied to you?

Who needs it?

Now, before you fall into the misery that you're never going to get married, get depressed by all your dates end badly, you're getting older by the second "you know", you're going to die alone...


In fact the guy has done you a big favor. He's not right for you. 

His cowardly manner let's you know that immediately rather than stringing you along for months.

Rejection hurts.

Of course it happens to everybody.

And you're a big girl; you'll get over it for sure.

Don't forget what you have to offer and what makes you special.

Know that if somebody with your fine qualities exists, surely a man with the good taste to love and appreciate you exists.

Know this: The world is full of much better men than the toad who let you down.

And every rejection you face is a step toward the right man, the one who's truly worthy of you and will add to your happiness.

Calling men; the complete guide

About the Author:
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com

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