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Don't let your fear stop you

What does fear DO ? When you feel fear, does it stop you in your tracks?

Yesterday, a woman told me that she has a secret dream. It's a dream that she has always cherished and hopes and wishes that one day (someday!) it will come true. It's a dream of a business she wants to (sooner or later) launch.

Unfortunately, whenever she tries to bring this dream in to the bright light of day - BOOM!

Fear rears it's calamitous head and away her dream retires, back to the safe and dark recesses of her heart. Then the fear recedes. Whew!

When you feel fear, does it make you run?

Another dynamic person I know is not paralyzed by his fear. In fact, quite the opposite: fear spurs him to action. His fear abates only when he is throwing himself headlong into literally dozens of projects.

Fear pops up - BOOM!

Another project or two is taken on. When the overwhelming load of too many projects suddenly tips into overload (as it naturally must), fear comes knocking.

The answer?

Another project! Whew!

Some of us are stopped by fear. Some of us run around in panic. What is it all about?

How can we reach our goals when we are

a) paralyzed

b) running around in panic? What tools and strategies are at our disposal to deal EFFECTIVELY with fear?

Today I offer you a metaphor for fear that is really accurate and helpful. And then I tell you why the metaphor isn't true, and how you shouldn't use it.

Fear is a dragon that guards your treasure

Picture your fear as a big powerful protective dragon whose sole purpose is to guard your treasure. Unfortunately, the fear-dragon has a very primitive mind that can only focus on one task:

Protect the treasure! Its dragon brain cannot make the distinction that your treasure does NOT need protecting from YOU!

(By the way, perhaps you've forgotten that you HAVE treasure. Oh yes. You do. Your treasure is all the ideas, energy, enthusiasm, motivation, resources, brilliance, talent, originality, passion, clarity and courage that you will ever need to live an extraordinary life. Don't fret if you have misplaced your treasure and can't recall where it is kept.

Fortunately, there is a big powerful protective dragon sitting on it. Find the fear and know that directly on the other side is your treasure, waiting to be claimed.)

So that's what fear does. It sits on your treasure and breaths fire whenever you come near it. Its tactic is that you are

a) paralyzed or

b) running around in panic and have no ability to come looting.

This metaphor of the fear-dragon is true and helpful in an important way. It's something that I coach many clients around: The best stuff - the stuff you want and need is just on the other side of your fear.page 1 of 2 right arrow